We bought an aluminum travel trailer. We decided to use a Ford Flex as a tow vehicle. The trailer specs said the tongue weight was 440 lbs. The maximum for the Flex is 450 lbs. So, close but just in limits.
Which was fine, until one day we weighed the tongue and were a bit dismayed to find that loaded normally the toungue weight was 620 lbs. What to do?
Travel trailer manufacturers, almost always, provide a tongue weight for a dry/empty trailer. Tongue weight should be 10-12% of the total trailer weight. I’d bet your TT weighed 4400lbs as delivered. As you discovered, adding weight to the trailer increases the tongue weight.
Your tandem axle trailer is probably equipped with 2, 3500lb axles, and may have a GVWR as high as 7000lbs. Your tongue weight indicates a trailer weight between 5200-6200lbs, if properly loaded. However, the tongue weight is merely a result of putting stuff in the trailer, so the ratio may not be within spec. Once you know the total weight of the trailer, axle weight plus tongue weight, you’ll be able to determine the correct tongue weight. You may be able to actually reduce the amount of weight on the hitch.
Vehicle manufacturers follow a similar practice with their maximum numbers. The 450lb maximum tongue weight indicates that the Flex has a 4500lb maximum towing capacity. Ford typically leans toward the 10% formula. The car as a whole is designed to tow a trailer that weighs, at most, 4500lbs, and has, at most, a 450lb tongue weight. There’s more to it than just ripping the hitch receiver off the car.
What’s the curb weight of the car? What’s the payload or passenger and cargo carrying capacity? The tongue weight needs to be subtracted from the payload figure. What’s the GCVWR for the Flex? Why tire pressure are you running when towing?
Flying in an experimental aircraft can be thrilling. I’ve done it. A mishap will likely only bring harm to the pilot and/or passenger(s). Experimenting with vehicles and weights on public roads could bring harm to others. To each their own only goes so far. Nearly everything we do has, or can have an impact on others.