I’ve had this same problem with my 2019 SEL occasionally also, maybe 5-10 times in total. I’ve tried various combinations of all suggested remedies here on this forum and it doesn’t seem that any single method consistently works. But one approach has worked a few times: Doing nothing.
I say this because it happened again last night after the car sat unused for 7 days, though I’ve gone that long without charging bed. No pounding, rapping, locking, unlocking, door open/closing, praying, or swearing did anything. I gave up and went to bed, remembering that in the past the charge door would just open in the morning. Sure enough, 8 hours later, I pressed lock on the fob once, then unlock, and opened the charge door like normal as if nothing had happened.
The plunger latch moves smoothly and there’s no debris in there. I’m wondering if there’s a software glitch that resets when the 12V battery auto-charges? That’s the only thing I can think that would have happened overnight. Regardless, it’s an unpredictable problem that’s potentially serious and needs fixing.
BTW this is August in the US—no snow or ice