Sounds like you operate the same way I do: Reset when it disengages, if I feel like it. I really like the quiet ride of gear mode, so I do tend to pay attention. I drove 42K miles in my first year, so it seems like I spend alot of time in the car.
If I notice the ICE rpm's up, I tend to look at the OBDII to confirm before I reset, but it is not that helpful. I have had times when I confused road noise for RPM's, but it is not that often.
The OBDII monitor is just a fun toy. I have two different cheap (<$100) units. I normally use the BlueDriver with phone app. The cell phone is on a mount, and it gives me a nice instrument cluster-type display of RPM, Coolant Temp, SOC, Speed, Catalytic Temp, and load. It can also record these to a text file, for analysis in Excel. I email them and do analysis on a laptop.
My other cheap OBDII unit has a memory card for long-term recording, but I have immediate questions that don't need long-term studies. Also, that one does not display SOC, which is critical in understanding the Clarity. It also has the option of alarm when RPM's exceed a level. I set it to alarm when RPM went over 3K, and I would reset the HV. The alarm got annoying in a snow storm, when EV range went to zero, and RPM could not stay below 3K: I have not used it since then.
My current question is when the Clarity engages Atkinson mode. I have not been able to determine when it is Atkinson mode. I have a more expensive OBDII system (~$800) that shows status of the valve timing actuator valve that puts the ICE in Atkinson. I am looking forward to recording and correlating that operation. The OBDII system requires a laptop, and I just haven't gotten around to it yet.
There are other expensive OBII systems that show the battery health, mine does not, and battery health also interests me.