Pushmi- the hypocrisy is that your argument focuses on overpopulation by relatively poor people in developing nations and completely ignores overconsumption of resources by relatively wealthy people in developed nations. The flip side of your tough love would be austerity measures in developed nations to allow for proper reallocation of resources to balance them across populations. But of course, that would require sacrifice by the few wealthy for the sake of the many poor so it’s not a popular argument.
It's most definitely not hypocrisy to point out that using limited resources, by charities and NGOs, to reduce infant mortality in poor countries is counter-productive, because it will inevitably lead to an even greater number of infants and children starving to death in another generation or two.
In fact, we are already seeing this happen! To call that "hypocrisy" is nothing but denying reality.
As they say, if you find yourself at the bottom of a hole, the first thing to do is to
stop digging! Using limited resources from charities and NGOs to reduce infant mortality in countries where there is no widespread use of birth control, is counter-productive. To call that "hypocrisy"... well, that's not even wrong. It's refusing to even
look at the real problem.
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At the most basic level, the problem is very simple: To reduce the human population to the carrying capacity of the Earth's ecosystem, the death rate must exceed the birth rate. That's simple math. Now, we can argue that it's better to concentrate on sharply reducing the birth rate as opposed to trying to increase the death rate, but the basic equation can't be altered.
On a slightly more complex level, we can look at various factors: Birth rate, death rate, consumption rate, and efficiency (in terms of pollution produced) of production.
Positive factors (leading to a more desirable outcome for future generations) would be:
1. Reducing the birth rate
2. Increasing the death rate
3. Lowering the consumption rate
4. Increasing efficiency (and lowering pollution) of production
You can argue until you're blue in the face about which is more "important", but that's a subjective or emotional argument, not an objective or rational one. The math doesn't care what your emotional reaction to the reality is.
If we're going to talk about hypocrisy... then there's a lot of hypocrisy in claiming that factor #3 is the only one which matters. What matters is not any one factor, but how the factors work together to produce an outcome, either good or bad. One factor or another may be easier to change, but to say that one should be "preferred" to another, as more ethical or moral... that is an emotional response, not a logical or reasonable one.
It reminds me of a scene from "Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan":
CAROL (on viewscreen): What exactly is Genesis? Well, put simply, Genesis is life from lifelessness. It is a process whereby molecular structure is reorganized at he subatomic level into life-generating matter of equal mass. [...] Stage Three will involve the process on a planetary scale. It is our intention to introduce the Genesis device into the pre-selected area of a lifeless space body, such a moon or other dead form. The device is delivered, instantaneously causing what we call the Genesis Effect. Matter is reorganized with life-generating results. ...Instead of a dead moon, a living, breathing planet, capable of sustaining whatever lifeforms we see fit to deposit on it.
[...]
SPOCK: Fascinating! [...] It literally is Genesis.
KIRK: The power of creation.
[...]
McCOY: But, dear Lord, do you think we're intelligent enough to... Suppose, what if this thing were used where life already exists?
SPOCK: It would destroy such life in favor of its new matrix.
McCOY: Its new matrix? ...Do you have you any idea what you're saying?
SPOCK: I was not attempting to evaluate its moral implications, Doctor. As a matter of cosmic history, it has always been easier to destroy than to create.
McCOY: Not anymore! Now we can do both at the same time! According to myth, the Earth was created in six days. Now, watch out! Here comes Genesis, we'll do it for you in six minutes.
SPOCK: Really, Doctor McCoy, you must learn to govern your passions. They will be your undoing. Logic suggests...
McCOY: Logic? My God! The man's talking about logic! We're talking about universal Armageddon, you green-blooded, inhuman...
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Those who focus on factor #3 (reducing the consumption rate) seem to want to make the entire world poor. I'd much rather see the entire world, with a much smaller global population, become rich... or at least comfortably well off, with a reliable supply of electricity and clean water, proper sanitation, access to meaningful education, the internet, and universal health care.
Of course, that runs counter to the goal of improving factor #3, since that means
increasing the consumption rate in third-world countries. That would have to be balanced by even stronger applications of the other three factors. It would almost certainly have to be balanced by a lower total global population, altho spending resources on factor #4 will help mitigate that.
As I said: If there was an easy answer, then we'd already be doing it.