TL;DR - Excited, approximate delivery end of March, did a test drive in a demo, worried about charger installation.
Great timing.
I did trade emails at that time with Volvo and they did confirm that everything was A-OK despite the confusing messages. I was contacted during November or December by the internet sales person at the local dealership I had specified. I had asked some followup questions at that point and didn't have any answers for me and seemed disconnected. This combined with our previous visit to see a regular XC40 was disconcerting, this is a huge purchase for me, much more that I ever felt I would spend on a car. I want the dealer to be excited for me.
During the holidays I visited another local dealer and talked about that, the salespersons there were much more engaged with us when we visited. We learned their demo was arriving the last week of December and they already had delivery dates for their preorders.
I called my dealership and arranged a test drive of their demo last week. My wife (it's going to be her car) really enjoyed the vehicle. While the dealer still doesn't have information about discounts on chargers they are at least aware that this is information they don't have and are going to be proactive about notifying me. The dealer was so much more engaged on this visit. So right now I am significantly more at ease that the purchase process will go well.
During that same time period I was notified that the build had been scheduled and I could no longer make changes to the order. The dealer was able to provide us with a report that showed an estimated delivery of our vehicle around the end of March.
Where Volvo is now:
Volvo could improve their communication with regards to direct sales to customers including creating a better self serve portal that provided information.
Volvo needs to get information about any discounts on chargers out to dealers and customers ASAP.
Volvo, since it is introducing a new product, should foster the development of local communities to provide mutual support.
Where I am now:
I have a very difficult home charge installation that now has the added pressure of a ticking clock.
I still have range anxiety. I have been at the forefront of people saying we need more choices with less range to handle second cars used only for commuting, but range anxiety is real.
I still have anxiety about not purchasing a Tesla. (Mitigated by styling and availability of rebates.)
I am really impressed with the vehicle. It meets my needs of being a really well built car that offers the styling I want and meeting the needs of my wife's daily commute. It is significantly better than our second choice the Niro to drive. That being said, if it was my car I might by the Niro because I'm that cheap.
Oh, and I have to clean out the garage because the car won't fit currently.