I wouldn't call them anti, its more like they don't understand the logic of how driving an EV will work or they just presume that the infrastructure won't get built out enough for their use case in a reasonable time frame, which is not a totally irrational concern. Not to mention how the range of the car changes in an unfamiliar way depending on how fast the person drives. Even I have trouble getting a good feel for that, so I can only go off the 70 mph tests and extrapolate from there to 80 mph.
Most people don't think about what their actual driving needs are and just go to hypotheticals or select a once in a decade trip as a design criteria. Doesn't help that hyper pro ev people muddy the water by incorrectly using the average miles per day driven stat - this stat is actually totally useless in determining a design criteria for range anyways. A histogram is far more useful because it would show the number of days that a person drove a particular number of miles - one for a single year and one projecting out for a decade. For example, the longest one way trip I have ever driven was 600 miles in one day then 600 miles back after the trip was done. I consider that to be a once a year to a few times a decade driving event. Am I willing to spend an extra 10k for that additional range, probably not. Most people would then see that like 90% of days they drive their car less than 300 miles or something. That is when a more realistic conversation about tradeoffs can take place. I think its totally reasonable for people to want a car that can cover 75-85% of their driving days on a single overnight charge. There are some people who frequently drive more than 300-400 miles per day, but I have no idea what portion of the population does that and I assume its less than 10%.
At least for me, I would probably want an EV that could get around 250 miles of interstate driving, which is practically becoming standard now.
That is only possible if there is enough infrastructure to where people can stop when they want to as opposed to the infrastructure dictating stops.
Range will always be important because you are trying to sell them onto a car that has anywhere from a quarter to a third less range than the average ICE. Most people don't just follow the specs of EVs closely so its unreasonable to hold them to account to information that only became true a year or two ago. I still have friends who bring up the old nissan leaf range and issues because that was when they looked at it last.
Yeah, but I don't want to need to hyper plan out every long distance trip I take. Right now that is necessary around where i live because there arent a ton of stations and they have unknown condition.
First, let me say that I appreciate where you are coming from, similar to most non-EV owners and skeptics. I was the same before I got my first one back in 2019, a Kona EV. But once you have experience driving a BEV, you learn to adapt and gain confidence on how to plan and do trips. Initially, we had one BEV and one ICE car. The latter was used for longer trips, esp when I drove into the US. But around home and within BC, our charging infrastructure is pretty good, so wasn't afraid to use the BEV for trips here.
Based on my experience, I soon learned that for longer trips, you want a faster charging BEV, and a decent range (doesn't have to be the longest). That's why I bought the Ioniq 6, which charges super fast, and we now only own two BEVs, no ICE car. The other BEV (Solterra) is not a trip car (slow L3 charging), but is good off-road (to go to our cabin), and we need two cars in our household anyway. My wife actually prefers driving the Solterra, and I mainly drive the I6. Anyway, we are now covered for longer trips, and I have no hesitation going anywhere with the I6 on a long trip. But that only comes with experience.
Further on a couple of your points. Fast charging stations are usually located around convenience stops, fast food, etc, similar to gas stations. And it doesn't take a lot of planning, in fact you can do that while you are driving as the car can keep you informed of where the nearest or next charging stations. Also you stay at hotels that have free overnight charging as an amenity, similar to free breakfasts.
BTW, my son has owned a Tesla since 2018, and goes everywhere with it. Two years ago, he drove to FL and back (to Vancouver) clear across the continent diagonally for spring break. Look on a map to appreciate how far that is. This year, just now actually, they went to Phoenix. Took 2 days of driving, same as with an ICE car. Again, look at a map to appreciate the distances. What you need to understand that when you stop for food, bio breaks, etc, you also charge. So that way, you don't waste extra time just sitting there waiting for your car to charge. With my I6, it charges even faster, so the car is usually finished its charging, before we are finished doing our thing. I know this is a little different than an ICE car trip, but once you do it a few times, you quickly adapt and gain full confidence.