Well, I will agree with you that we essentially have parity in fueling costs between ICE and EV commercial fast charging. But to me it is still a ripoff considering that the base resource is so cheap... you know they get rates waaaaay cheaper than we pay at home even... especially in light of all the logistical inconveniences like short ranges and long charge time as compared to ICE refueling. And I don't believe you are correct that prices will eventually come down. These guys will game it out and create a captive market and buy politicians in order to keep prices artificially high. Just like our silly health care system. We will pay and pay and pay. That's what we do. As for me, that parity or anything even close, makes an EV a non-starter. I hope that changes, but I am not optimistic.
As someone from down the highway from you (Columbia, MD) I wanted to give my two cents. I am about 3 weeks into ownership of an EV, with our other car being a Hybrid SUV. Obviously EV ownership is a "to each their own," but I'd never think it was a rip-off.
We bought the car with the full intent that we will wait to put in a charger at home until 2025 or 2026. We got lucky in that we live a mile from a Howard County-owned
free L2 charger, close enough that I can drop my kids off for school and (if the weather actually improves) walk home, and with my wife working from home, do what I need to do and have it full in 4-5 hours, walk back and get the car. Or I have my wife drop me off before I work on a weekend, and we go to pick it up several hours later. For those times that I have to have it filled quicker, there's an EA about 2 miles away near the collection of fast food restaurants, and multiple other fast chargers within 5-10 miles. Conveniently, they all seem to be situated in close walking distance to a sit-down and relax fast casual like Panera.
For comparison, when I lived in Frederick, I would rarely have filled up other than Costco because of price, and that Costco (and the one in Columbia) have the added fun of a 30 minute wait before you can pump. When I fill the SUV there's really only a couple places I'd go here in Columbia, and they all have waits unless you go at 8 or 9 at night.
Yes, EV ownership requires a change in habits. I'm still having trouble on the "I'm down to 60% anxiety" that in an ICE would have me thinking about when to refuel (I do the same thing with my cell phone despite knowing that 100 is not good for it). The idea that you only fill your car to 80% is weird coming from gas-filling. It is definitely more like the 70s and 80s, when Shell would hand out a free road map with just the Shell stations on it, so you could plan where to stop well ahead of time.
Maryland is one of the states that is taking EV seriously. I sense that between apps, the opening of the Tesla chargers and time, the number of chargers will multiply quickly to the point that they're almost as ubiquitous as gas stations near major highways.
Of course, I'm still in the novelty stage where I'm playing around with the different apps to see what works best for my needs.